tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26872802.post1961952847429521765..comments2023-10-29T12:45:44.050-04:00Comments on Allegory of an Underage Femme Fatale: Am I or Aren't I?la petite dévergondéehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01207915956580451394noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26872802.post-30875450544541287822008-05-04T18:07:00.000-04:002008-05-04T18:07:00.000-04:00Thanks love, I have to agree with you on feeling l...Thanks love, I have to agree with you on feeling like people come down on like I'm a foolish little girl when I tell them that I'm Bi. Its unfair as I too identify perfectly with its label.<BR/><BR/>I found a remedy though: I just tell people that I'm pansexual. It works and its true! :)<BR/><BR/>-la petitela petite dévergondéehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01207915956580451394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26872802.post-84975373372473512042008-05-04T17:33:00.000-04:002008-05-04T17:33:00.000-04:00Damn. I had a giant comment posted, and then blogg...Damn. I had a giant comment posted, and then blogger decided to delete it. Fabulous. <BR/><BR/>Anyways, the bulk of it was letting you know that you're not alone in how you feel. In fact, everything you've written here bears an eerie resemblance to what I'm going through at the moment (with the notable exception that you're in a relationship, and I'm not...although I can imagine how that would complicate things). I totally agree with you that it sometimes feels like a betrayal of the queer community to identify as bisexual. I'm more hesitant to come out as such to my queer friends than I am to straight friends. Bisexuality in general has gotten such a rap for being "just a phase" that I don't think many people really consider it a valid identity in the same way as gay, or lesbian, or transgender. Which is really a shame because I certainly hold it as an identity. <BR/><BR/>Of course, conventional wisdom dictates that you're only "really" bisexual when you're single, since if you're dating a man, you're straight and if you're dating a woman, you're a lesbian. Of course, I think that's basically a crock of shit. (Pardon my French.) It just seems ironic that this label that is supposed to, technically, indicate a wider array of options actually limits us and pigeon-holes us into spaces in which we aren't comfortable.<BR/><BR/>I apologize for the rant - just know that I sympathize with you entirely.Sasha Sapphohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05400657273516424091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26872802.post-31911831805667445182008-04-30T17:52:00.000-04:002008-04-30T17:52:00.000-04:00Yeah sg, I identify with that, the fact that its j...Yeah sg, <BR/><BR/>I identify with that, the fact that its just a forced situation, like you have to sleep with them.<BR/><BR/>The duality of it too is that I'm still as much of a little nympho and I still need and crave as much sexual attention as ever but since were still committed, he's the only one I can go to for it (if you don't count the fact that I slept with Aaden in New York, but I told him that he couldn't hold me accountable for whatever happened in NYC over New Years).<BR/><BR/>Its just hard. -la petitela petite dévergondéehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01207915956580451394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26872802.post-51388855478851754412008-04-30T00:32:00.000-04:002008-04-30T00:32:00.000-04:00I cried a lot during/after sex at the end of my re...I cried a lot during/after sex at the end of my relationship.<BR/>It just felt forced (not forced upon, but a forced situation) and there was really nothing there.<BR/>Take care hun<BR/>~sgsingle galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01458312344192558846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26872802.post-83977450610391580072008-04-26T15:41:00.000-04:002008-04-26T15:41:00.000-04:00Jose,That book is very interesting and even if at ...Jose,<BR/><BR/>That book is very interesting and even if at times the writer sounds like he's being pig-headed, its not just about entrancing girls to like you to sleep with you. Its mostly about entrancing them to like you as first impression so that they have the opportunity to get to know you and like you for who you are.<BR/><BR/>Its all about social interaction which at times is harder than anything else in the world to learn if you haven't been born with the god-given talent. Lord knows I've not always been a social butterfly. :)<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the compliment on my photos, they're my big love.<BR/><BR/>GotMalk:<BR/><BR/>Haha, don't worry, I will and I think it'll be soon, Gadget and I just had a record breaking "discussion" (thats a fight where you don't yell) and I;m on the edge of my patience with this drama.<BR/><BR/>Much love to you all, la petitela petite dévergondéehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01207915956580451394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26872802.post-47378804261519642922008-04-24T16:08:00.000-04:002008-04-24T16:08:00.000-04:00I'm with fat controller.Furthermore, I used to dat...I'm with fat controller.<BR/>Furthermore, I used to date a bi girl who was afraid to date me because she thought she'd be betraying the gay community... She was afraid that people would look at her and say that being bi was just a phase. Now, she's married to a guy (not me, but the guy she met after me... I swear, I'm like Good Luck Chuck...), has a good job, and two kids she loves.<BR/>In the end, fuck what everyone else thinks. No one else can make you happy. When it comes down to it, you always need to do what's right for you. Hopefully you'll figure out just what that is.<BR/>PwH,<BR/>Shaun<BR/><BR/>P.S. If you do hook up with another girl, you'd better write an entry about it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26872802.post-15597723814369809462008-04-24T14:55:00.000-04:002008-04-24T14:55:00.000-04:00your images say a lot on their own and fits perfec...your images say a lot on their own and fits perfectly with your thoughts. thanks for sharing petite. guess what...i got that book you suggested to me. it very interesting. there is already a lot of things i didn't know in the 1st chapter. thanks for helping me. jose (joe)<BR/><BR/>p.s. hablas muy bien an espanol... haha. also...just wanted to to say that your images are very fine and artistic. like i mentioned earlier...they literally speak on their own.<BR/>always, joseJIF Hubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00691458813322019933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26872802.post-68703339903938805282008-04-24T14:40:00.000-04:002008-04-24T14:40:00.000-04:00Awe thanks guys, youre my favorite little cheerlea...Awe thanks guys, youre my favorite little cheerleaders. :)<BR/><BR/>I completely agree though, its just that when you get on a line of thought it'll burn you up if you focus so fully on it.<BR/><BR/>-la petitela petite dévergondéehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01207915956580451394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26872802.post-89101821648665389382008-04-24T11:05:00.000-04:002008-04-24T11:05:00.000-04:00It's a common stereotype about bisexuals that we c...It's a common stereotype about bisexuals that we can't <I>really</I> commit to a monogamous relationship because we'll always be pining for whatever gender that relationship excludes. <BR/><BR/>T'aint necessarily so. No more so than when a heterosexual commits to monogamy and foregos other partners. <BR/><BR/>Whether you are committed to a man or to a woman, there's no reason you can't give it your all.Jeffersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01133275691982057440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26872802.post-50354501488330735082008-04-24T04:52:00.000-04:002008-04-24T04:52:00.000-04:00Categories such as 'straight', 'gay', 'Bi', 'poly'...Categories such as 'straight', 'gay', 'Bi', 'poly' or whatever are only ever inadequate labels resulting from our natural human desire to categorise and see order in things. They are not compartments into one of which you have to be squeezed no matter how awkward the fit; we are not machines but complex individuals. There are as many different types of sexual experience as there are people in this world. To have a bisexual facet to your sexuality and yet be drawn to embark on an exclusive relationship with one person, whether male or female, is not hypocritical. What would hypocritical would to deny your nature. Be open and honest with your partner and with yourself. If (s)he cannot accept you as the complex and unique individual that you are then maybe that relationship is not meant to last.Fat Controllerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09041653310357187641noreply@blogger.com